The church I grew up in taught a lot about sex.
The intent was to help (I think.) Sex is a big deal and the church SHOULD be talking about it.
By “talk,” though, I mean “dialogue,” and no such conversation existed at the time.
Adults told teens “DON’T HAVE SEX” without telling them how or why. They squeamishly avoided listing potential consequences of unprotected intercourse, making high school Sex Ed look competent by comparison.
More embarrassing was a series on married sex taught by the three senior pastors. They lauded their bravery for talking “openly” about the subject without using medical terminology or addressing the “how” of how to improve your sex life. They discussed sexual pleasure with extreme discomfort, transmitting their shame to the rest of the congregation.
I learned that porn is a fantasy without learning about the reality of sex.
I heard over and over the gender myth that men like sex and women don’t.
College proved worse; Christians shut down honest conversation with red faces and whispers of “inappropriate.”
Finding Debra Fileta’s website in 2014 came as a huge relief.
You mean to tell me Christians can honestly discuss sex?
Debra posted an excerpt from her newest book about why we save sex for marriage. I find it helpful having a reason aside from “JUST DON’T” or “WOMEN DON’T LIKE IT.” It helps, too, that she’s honest, ratcheting down the expectation of the Super Awesome Pinnacle of Experiences many Millennials were promised in youth group.
I so appreciate an author willing to tackle lies and point to Scripture instead of bolstering false teachings.
Debra Fileta’s new book drops today at Amazon or your favorite book seller.
Buy it. Borrow it. Learn. Dialogue. Enjoy.