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Dating App Update

Yesterday, I deactivated my OkCupid account.

I also wrote up a big list of why I was right to do so.

The list was angry and nitpicky and not so different from the post I wrote several years ago about my last dating app experience.

It didn’t hit me until now how tired I am.

Up until now, I’ve managed to stay fairly optimistic about finding love.

I am no longer in that headspace.

I find it hard to stay motivated when I keep running into misalignments of personality, goals, values, or interests.

Every message I send feels more and more like a cover letter for a job I know won’t hire me.

I did my best and now I need a break.

Deactivating my account gave me a burst of energy. I finished a BUNCH of books yesterday and feel like I could finally whittle down the 10+ books on my Currently Reading pile.

I also feel an interest in writing for once?? That’s new!

For the next month, I’m going to read books and write about Halsey. Dating can wait.


Lover of cheese and performative angst. I love to call out, complain, overreact, analyze, and reimagine. This site contains the fruit of that labor.

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