My pastor asked me how long I’d lived in Seattle yesterday.
I did the math and realized it’s been TWO YEARS.
I guess that makes me a bonafide local.
Even though most days I hate living here, I wanted to celebrate this milestone.
If not celebrate, at least recognize.
I don’t think I’ll live here forever. But I love my church and the company I work for – I would be loath to leave them.
To mark this occasion, here are some things I’ve learned since moving here:
- The Light Rail only goes so far. When in doubt, take a bus.
- MAKE SURE YOU CHECK THE WEEKEND BUS SCHEDULE, or you could be stranded in University District without a ride to your friend’s wedding in Sand Point.
- Never go to Pike Place Market after 12:00 PM. NEVER GO THERE.
- Mainline Protestantism is a thing.
- I have stronger beliefs about LGBTQ rights and communion than I realized.
- You can never have too many books.
- Just kidding if you live in a studio.
- Rich people have bedrooms. If you want a bedroom so bad, find a roommate.
- Summit Street Starbucks on Capitol Hill has the best staff.
- Not all theatre is worth your time.
Church people hate me.
At least, it’s hard not to feel that way as a single woman.
For over a year, I’ve watched people panic when I show up without a partner. I’ve been asked, “Soooooo hooooooow’s wooooooork?” more times than I can count. I’ve had others explain things to me that I already understand.
I thought I was the problem. I doubled-down on small talk, asked lots of questions, brought wine to Bible study.
Still I got panicked smiles, questions about college, the dreaded, “Hoooooooow’s work?”
I thought, Maybe these people are uncomfortable around singles.
Enter Tim. Continue reading “How to Talk to Women in Their 20s”
Congratulations! Now that you’re done learning, acquiring life skills, and becoming a well-rounded person, you’re well on your way to doing something worthwhile. The next chapter of your life will be a confusing, amorphous mess. Take some advice from someone who is only marginally more knowledgeable and is in the same boat. These three tips will bring you success in whatever you do.
- Push your body past its limits
Be glad you don’t have health insurance, young ones; doctors are for the weak. In order to succeed, you have to forgo any comfort or well-being for the sake of self-promotion. Wean yourself off sleep until you reach vampire status. Consume copious amounts of caffeine to function. Take on more things than are humanly possible. Never say no to any new opportunity. If you find your efforts make you physically, emotionally, or mentally unwell, you’re on the right track. Success is being too exhausted to enjoy what you’ve earned.
- Do things you don’t want
Being a well-rounded person means stepping out of your comfort zone and never returning to it. Don’t think you can get away with tiny deviations from your normal routine; pursue huge life changes against your better judgment. Give up writing to pursue mechanical engineering. Sell all your stuff, motivated by white guilt. Date someone you know to be a bad idea. Convert to the first religion that pops into your head. Anything you choose will contribute to your betterment and will have no lasting harmful effects.
- Develop your weaknesses
Think of the talents and passions you’ve been honing your whole life. Now push them aside and don’t look back. The workforce is full of talented people; anyone can be good at something. Set yourself apart by becoming mediocre at that one skill you’ve never had. Put all your time and energy not into things you love, but into things that could be done better by someone else. Devote yourself to becoming the second-worst public speaker in the room, the so-so dental hygienist, the subpar babysitter. Become known for the area in which you’ll never excel.
If you hadn’t realized by now, none of these things will lead to success. Americans are obsessed with the appearance of success, which is what these things bring, along with a misguided sense of satisfaction. This is advice given by exhausted, unhappy people who repress regret by assuring themselves their choices weren’t in vain. Don’t be fooled by what the culture deems wise. Shine off your rugged individualism, graduate. You are a person with talents and preferences, likes and dislikes. Your story is unique; it never has to look like someone else’s if you don’t want. You have the freedom to pursue what you love, whether or not it’s lucrative. Make that your reality and let it guide your future.
Lauren Leshley, recent graduate